Tag Archive | disabilities

To my friends who voted for Trump

To my friends who voted for Trump for any reason you can rationalize:

It doesn’t matter why you voted for him to me

To me what matters is that you voted to hate me personally.

You voted that way and you knew I was gay and that people I love are gay

And you voted for the guy who believes you can electrocute gay people to change them

You voted knowing I was pagan and that I love other pagan people

And yet you voted for the alleged Christian candidate

Who wouldn’t know Jesus if he stood before him

You voted knowing I need access to healthcare

You voted to deny it to me

You voted knowing I’m a woman

A woman who has been molested as a child

by an adult

And you voted for someone who is accused of child rape and the guy with him was already convicted

You voted knowing all women have been street harassed

Harassed at school or on the job

And you voted for the guy who bragged about how he can do it with no penalty

I know you know people of colour or who have people of colour that we all love

And you voted for a white supremacist

You voted for the politics of hate

And you are making me hate you

And I never thought I would





Invisible disabilities suck

Having a deaf day today and it’s driving me nuts. Had a meeting with my boss and I asked if I could send my team a web page with an explanation of Meniere’s disease (or syndrome as they are starting to call it) and she said no, I shouldn’t have to share my medical condition. Which leaves me with assholes thinking I’m faking when I hear sometimes and not others. Arggh!. Having an invisible condition is really annoying and frustrating. Having a disabilty that is episodic is worse. I feel sometimes I should wear a sign like lepers used to do and ring a bell so people know I have a disability that can’t be seen.

So many people have disabilities that don’t show, probably more than the ones that show and leaves you constantly having to explain why you can or cannot do something that TABs can do and not think about it. Our population is aging rapidly and there are going to be more and more people in my boat but until the TABs get with the program, if they ever do, I got to keep rowing my own.

The disabled employee group about a year ago did reach out and offer to help me work at home because most deaf employees do but after 9 weeks at home with the cat, I fear I’d go slowly insane even with all the conference calls. And they don’t always tell you when they make changes in procedures and if you aren’t there it’s easy to get an error. And going deaf is isolating enough without working at home.

Disney changing policy that lets guests with disabilities skip lines


Much as I love Disneyland and was thinking of going soon, maybe not. I already have a cane, they are just making it that much more of a barrier to a good experience. They should police the bad eggs not hurt everyone becasue some rich loser can’t wait in line.

I double dog dare you!

I have no intention of becoming an activist for pagans with disabilities but I have a big mouth and I have a double dog dare for every event going on for the next year. I dare you to attend the event you run for 3 hours with one of the following in the middle of the event:

In a wheelchair with no one to push you.

On crutches

With a blindfold and no silliness like blindman’s bluff

With earmuffs or noise cancelling headphones.

With one arm in a sling

With a cane and a brace on one leg or a foot bandaged

Or run a workshop with one the above disabilities and make them available to any attendees to also participate.

I dare you to see what life is like for people with disabilities.

Some realities about the pagan community and its lack of friendlyness to the people with disabilities

I’m hoping this is my last post on this because some people missed the point and maybe I wasn’t clear enough because even some friends didn’t get what I was trying to say so I will say it plainly because there is a lot of blindness due to uncomfortableness to the subject. We are a not a friendly community to the disabled. Very few people born with a serious disability would ever even think that their body was a temple. That is a statement from people that have always been whole and maybe age is starting to slow them down in some fashion but they don’t get it.

I’m also talking to the people who organize events. Some of whom just patted themselves on the back and said to themselves, “We’re very friendly to the disabled we even have an accessible building.” Hate to break it to you but you probably aren’t terribly disabled friendly. You able bodied people just think you are.

We are living in a peculiar time of being in between ages of the disabled. When I was kid there were a lot more people around who had had polio and were in wheelchairs or had big braces. There were a lot more blind and deaf people around that whose mothers had had rubella. There were more kids born with CP (Cerebral Palsy). So a lot of younger folk don’t see as much of what reality used to be.

And that is about to change in a big way because baby boomers are about to hit their older ages and there will be more people in wheelchairs and with walkers of canes, or with hearing aids or losing their sight that will want to continue to come to pagan events just like they always have and the pagan community is in for a reality check and the rude truth that they aren’t terribly friendly to the disabled with one exception, the Dianic community usually does think about it more than the rest of Clan Oblivious.

So I will share some things I’ve seen. When you plan a spiral dance, where is the place for your elders and the disabled? The outside of the Dance? Or did you put them in the center and let them be part of the energy if they so chose? Because “letting” us be on the outside is condescending not enabling.

Did you have a sign language interpreter? Or did you say we don’t have any hearing impaired people. Maybe they don’t come because you don’t have one?

Do you print your programs and flyers in small type with no large type available?

So you make it easy to find the way to workshops for the people who aren’t sighted or do you just hand out a map and hope everyone gets there? Or point out the room names are in Braille on the doors. Really you expect people to feel their way around the floors and hope they get where they want to go?

Do you space things far apart all over your event site on uneven ground because it looks prettier? Or do you make it easy for someone with a cane or a walker to get from place to place.

If you are having camping, do you have an area for people with disabilities to camp? With volunteer helpers? Because some of us old Girl Scouts still like to camp but don’t if the bathroom is ½ mile from the camping area. This is something the West Coast Women’s Music Festival was excellent at but few pagan camps are.

Do you announce events like fire drills with a bell or bullhorn but not a light?

Do you actually do something to help or do you hinder?

Most people with long term disabilities have learned to cope and they won’t say things and they won’t come out to your events and you will never know they were there and you temporarily able bodied people will go around thinking the people with disabilities don’t exist until one of you aren’t able bodied anymore. And you start asking, “Where is ___? I miss them.”

My body is not a temple. It is a vessel for my spirit and mind. I give thanks for the body and its functions. That at the moment I can see and hear. That I have my cane to use when I need it. I will take care of it because I like being around on the physical plane. I give thanks for what I can do and let things go like the love of dancing. I used to teach dance and love to dance and I will never really dance again. I let that go. I used to be a runner. I will never run again. I used to be a gymnast. I will never do intentional gymnastics ever again, I’m not ruling out any spectacular falls. I’m good at those. But don’t ever tell me my body is a temple.