This Duggar thing is infuriating to me. I know how those girls feel and I bet they think they were the ones who did something wrong. I was molested when I was 6 by the man next door. The last time it happened his wife walked in and started yelling and I thought I had done something wrong. Their daughter was my best friend and when things got bad at home I went over there to what I thought was a safe space.
They moved within a few days of her discovering us. And for years I kept it hidden. When I finally remembered the whole thing I got back into therapy for a long time. I still hate when people walk up to me on my blind side because that was what she did when she started screaming.
My therapist told me not to ask my mom why she never did anything and I should have listened because I asked my mom if she knew it was happening and her response to me at the time was, “You aren’t going to make trouble for him, are you?” Mind you he would probably have been in his 70’s at least by then.
So when people talk about Josh Duggar and how awful he is, I think about those girls and that some were his sisters and they have to look at him every day and wonder what they did to deserve it. They’re trapped by their religious cult, thank heavens, I was not.
When people say someone who this happened to is brave, we aren’t. It’s an event and it happened and you learn how to go on. It’s no different than having a disability. You don’t know any different until someone else makes a fuss. It is what it is and it’s part of your personality. That being said, Josh Duggar needs to have done to him as he did to others who had no defense.