Archive | March 27, 2015

Learning how to be a woman: take less space, smile, and put on an innocent face

These are probably the reason I failed Charm School LOL!

Transgender Reality

Poster “alwaysaprincess” needs help: “what are the most important body languages, poses, walking, etc that will make you as girly as possible?”

Here is some of the advice given by commenters.


Men strut, women walk like they are flinging water balloons ahead of their toes.


Women take up less space, point their toes inward and curl into little balls when sitting in chairs.


“Smile more, keep your legs together”, and “just think to yourself innocence”. Whatever that means.


“Smile more”. Because apparently you aren’t truly a woman if you have bitchy resting face.

This is just one post, and it’s full of stereotypes about how men and women act. This is a recurring theme in these communities, and one that we will be revisiting again and again in this blog. Many people seem to think that trans people are all about breaking down gender stereotypes, and “smashing the binary”, while…

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Indiana – You suck, you legalized bigotry in the name of fake religion

I work at a large health insurance company that has offices in Indiana. Now I am faced with the choice of refusing to be sent there for any training or other thing my bosses might send me to. Thanks Indiana, you bigoted bunch of asshats. Thanks for bringing back Jim Crow single handedly. Since now you can legally not serve anyone you say your made up religions says you can in whatever your interpretation of religion is. Don’t like gays and lesbians okay. Don’t like people of other races or mixed races, alrightly then. Don’t like Jews or Muslims,, that’s just fine. I think they call this the law of unintended consequences because Indiana just lost a lot of money.

For a good time check out Audra MacDonald’s twitter stream yesterday.

Sex-differences and ‘domestic violence murders’

Karen Ingala Smith

What could we do if we wanted to hide the reality of men’s violence against women?

Firstly, we might have  a ‘gender neutral’ definition of domestic violence.  Maybe like the UK government which uses the following definition:

“any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to: psychological, physical, sexual, financial [and] emotional.”

Not only treating ‘sex’ and ‘gender’ as the same thing, this definition erases sex differences.  It includes the phrase ‘regardless of gender’ when in reality men – as a biological sex-class – are overwhelmingly the perpetrators, and women – as a biological sex-class – are overwhelming the victims of ‘domestic violence’ (more on the differences between male and female victims of intimate partner violence here).  It…

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