I’m not sure anything changes when it comes to Druidry and Ethics, etc and before I began to seriously practice Druidry. I brought my existing ethics, virtues and values which are pretty much based in common sense. Common sense says that being a good and not evil person makes life a lot easier in the long run than doing something that is evil. The problem comes in defining evil. And notice I say evil and not sin. I don’t believe in sin except in the amorphous way it was sometimes defined in Sunday School. In my Sunday School it was defined as anything that separates you from god. Also notice it was not based on anything prohibited in the Bible. Presbyterians are a critical thinking bunch and expect you to be able to think for yourself not let the minister define what is good and ill. That made it a whole lot easier when I was coming out and oddly enough to become pagan. Critical thinking taught me that deciding what worked for me was better than letting someone else decide for me.
Anyway, that has always been in the core of my thinking about ethics. Is what I want to do going to separate me from my path or from the deities I worship? Therefore doing something selfish and me centered it not something I want to spend my life doing. I hate that lost feeling of not knowing what to do in a situation but I hate worse the thought of hurting me or someone I love.
That being said, I have no problem with dealing out some whoopass if necessary, I do tend to defend others more readily than myself. Friends have called it a rescue complex at times but I don’t think it is. If someone needs my help and I have the resources to help I will and not even question it but that does come with sometimes not doing something also if I think that the person needs to stop putting themselves in the same situation over and over. Then they don’t need to be rescued they need to rise and fall on their own actions. Yes, that involves judgment which is not a bad thing. Judgment implies observation and action and inaction sometimes, even when it hurts just to watch someone go down the same path repeatedly. I firmly agree with Einstein, doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity and quite frankly, stupidity.
So my values go pretty much like this and yes, it follows a gardening and nature theme.
1. Bloom where you are planted.
2. But don’t be afraid to make like a seed and find a better place if you need to do so.
3. Raise your face to the sun and wind and orient yourself that way every day.
4. Set your roots firmly and deeply.
5. Find what you need to nourish you from the earth
6. Enjoy the rain, even in California you get some sometimes. Keep it and cherish it.
7. Don’t be afraid to stand on your own like an oak.
8. But also love your friends like a deer.
9. Wander where you need to but know where and how to rest.
10. If you land on a rocky outcrop and can’t move, learn how and where it’s safe to set your roots.
11. Sometimes you have to be ruthless to grow or survive. Sometimes you have to prune things to grow.
12. Sometimes you are the weed and sometimes you are the weeder.
13. Accept help if you need it, sometimes plants need stakes for a while and it’s okay
14. Don’t accept that you need the stake all the time and try not to depend on it too much. Someone could remove the stake.
15. Everything moves in a circular motion. Everything is a part of everything and part of the chain. (yes, I borrowed from Donavan, he’s right.)
16. Know how to let go.
17. Protect what needs to be protected and support those who don’t need it and just need to know you have their back.
18. Some people need to be in the pack and some people need to be lone wolves and some need something in between at different times. It’s all good.
19. We all start as seeds or star dust and we grow and then we die and then we do it again because no energy is ever lost, it’s just transformed.
20. Sometimes we live in a well-tended garden, sometimes we find ourselves in a weed patch. Sometimes we live in a desert and sometimes we live on a mountain top and sometimes we live in a great forest. And it’s all to the good.
21. Be….and breathe.