Miss Kat sees way too many new people and sometimes more experienced ones in the Craft frantic to obtain a relationship with a personal deity. (She was going to call them patron deities but a respected elder said personal is a better term.) People obsess over this like they are afraid they will be the last chosen kid on the playground. Chill out! You will be fine. You can go many years in the Craft and never ever have an experience with deity and indeed some never have one and it is okay.
It’s rather like looking for the perfect soul partner and it is something that should not be forced or you could find yourself in some interesting consequences. This includes taking a God or Goddess for a magickal or Circle name. This leads to the year of living dangerously if you ask me. Miss Kat can think of several examples of this practice where it has gone way wrong. For instance, women who take the name Kali without thinking awhile about it and wonder why their life goes to hell in a handbasket, Well Duh! What were you thinking???
Another instance was one of my students who took the name Hestia, Goddess of hearth and home, and ended up housebound for a year. And last but not least, my first co-teacher in my first Wicca 101 classes. She took Lakshmi and gained weight like crazy. Not surprisingly, Lakshmi is a Goddess of plenty.
Be careful what or whom you wish
for, you may get it.
Miss Kat never had an experience with a deity until she was at least 10 years into the Craft. She felt sooo left out. She’s glad she waited because the experiences she’s had since have been so meaningful that she would not trade them for anything. But she also had to deal with the images of a Judeo-Christian god she was raised with first or the idea of the great Oneness that may indeed exist but is sometimes hard for a person in need to deal with. If human beings invented deity we did it for a reason, sometimes it is nice to call on someone bigger than us like a celestial parent of teacher. It’s nice to have someone else to talk to after you’ve driven your friends crazy.
Calling a goddess or god to talk to is different than having a personal deity. A personal deity will usually come to you and makes themself known to you in a dream or a stressful situation.
Calling a Goddess to a Circle is something we do to honor Her. We are asking to work with Her for a specified time period and when the Circle is over She leaves. Having a personal deity is a lifetime or long-term relationship. They hang around for awhile.
My first time was surprising and wonderous and I still have trouble talking about because these experiences are intensely private. And I’m not going to describe the exact encounter because it was so private. It was not someone I expected. Indeed if a deity had ever shown up I was sure it would be a Goddess. Up to that point I had been Dianic and while not a stomping, obnoxious, separatist like some I knew. A God was the last thing I thought I needed. I was wrong and I should have known better. Images of this deity had been appearing to me for years. I love gardening. I have ever since I was a child and even when things were frightening or painful knew I could talk to a tree and it would listen.
One night this Being showed up and He spent the night and I have never felt so loved or cared for or protected before or since. I know we talked and I know there were some initiatory aspects involving water but there are great chunks I don’t remember and I kept waking up and going back into the dream with wonder. Who showed up? The Green Man. And it’s a night I will treasure for the rest of my life even if He never shows up again but I hope He will. He showed up when I was dealing with some male issues from childhood when I didn’t feel safe. He made known to me the aspects of a loving protective male parent that I had missed as a child and healed a very hurt child. It’s something I will carry and cherish but it does make you stick out in a feminist group. And I still am the only priestess in our Temple of Isis group that is ordained to a God as well as Goddesses.
But I don’t think I would have had this experience if I had not been open to it. I have had dreams of another God since who is not my patron. I asked Him why I always had Gods in my dreams and His reply was that I was the Goddess and they didn’t need to come. That took me by surprise and woke me up in shock before I went back to sleep and back into the dream. These kinds of dreams are also the only dreams I’ve ever had that were fully interactive. I couldn’t direct the action but I could walk and talk and be fully me.
When I have had contact with Goddesses the interaction has been intensely practical, little things like saving my life. For years I had had a statue on my dashboard of Kwan Yin. I mostly bought as a protective car amulet. A bunch of us were in a tourist trap in Ports of Call and were goofing around. I had brand new car and there was this little plastic fake jade figure next to the Jesuses and Marys for the dash and I bought it and put it on my car. Many years later a woman ran a red light and hit me broadside and I rolled the car three times coming down upside down and taking two large divots out of the asphalt. But I knew I was going to be okay because as I started to roll I heard a female voice. The voice said, “Stay still and you will be fine”. Not having anything better to do I hung on to the steering wheel and somehow relaxed. When the car stopped rolling and time started again I got myself out of the car very slowly. I didn’t even hear the man screaming at me to get out because the car was smoking. The car was crushed and the sidewalk curb crushed the top of the car where my head was. Every window broke but my driver side window and every seat came unbolted except mine. I had a big “who’s on first?” type of argument with a policeman at the hospital later about who had gotten me out of my car. He wouldn’t believe I got myself out of the car with no help.
I had people yelling at me when I got out that I must had my neck broken. I even had an argument with the paramedics about it that I lost. I still ended up on a backboard, heart monitor, neck collar and oxygen. They never told me the top of my head was bleeding, sheesh. I was very bruised and concussed but other than that no broken bones which the ER doctors could not believe. The tow truck drivers the next day couldn’t believe it when I showed up to clean up my car. They kept saying, “you were in that and you aren’t in the hospital?
My coven sisters showed up at my car by chance (?) about 10 minutes after it happened on their way to work and the fire dept kindly told them I was alive and where I had been taken. They assumed I was dead because every firefighter was standing around the car staring at it, which tends to be what they do when they are waiting for the coroner. When they showed up in the ER I burst into tears because I hadn’t had a chance to call anyone and I looked up and there my beloved sisters were.
But when we cleaned out the multitudinous crystals and other protective spells in the car we found my statue of Kwan Yin but she was missing something, her head.
I do like the practicality of Goddesses. I have had other experiences with aspects of the Goddess. Not as violent but just as practical.
So, my suggestion on patron deities is too wait and see who shows up. If you don’t like them you can always ask them to leave. It is a two-way relationship, you know. You do get a say in it.
From – Miss Kat’s School of Genteel Witchcraft
This was the reading list we used when we set up the Grove.
Spirits of the Sacred Grove: The World of a Druid Priestess, Emma Restall Orr
Living Druidry: Magical Spirituality for the Wild Soul –Emma Restall Orr
Druid Mysteries: Ancient Wisdom for the 21st Century Philip Carr-Gomm (Author)
Druid Animal Oracle< Philip Carr-Gomm (Author), Stephanie Carr-Gomm (Author), Bill Worthington (Illustrator)
The Druid Way Philip Carr-Gomm (Author)
The Mist-Filled Path: Celtic Wisdom for Exiles, Wanderers, and Seekers, M.A. Frank MacEowen (Author), Tom Cowan (Foreword)
Fire in the Head: Shamanism and the Celtic Spirit Tom Cowan
Yearning for the Wind: Celtic Reflections on Nature and the Soul Tom Cowan (Author), Sandra Ingerman (Foreword)
Kindling the Celtic Spirit: Ancient Traditions to Illumine Your Life Through the Seasons Mara Freeman
The Celtic Spirit: Daily Meditations for the Turning Year Caitlin Matthews
Celtic Devotional: Daily Prayers and Blessings Caitlin Matthews
Glamoury: Magic of the Celtic Green World (Llewellyn’s Celtic Wisdom Series) Stephen Blamires (Author)
The Underworld Initiation: A journey towards psychic transformation (Celtic Myth & Legend, V. 3, R. J. Stewart (Author) Can be hard to penetrate compared to the others.
Walking the Maze: The Enduring Presence of Celtic Spirit Loren Cruden, Not druidic but about the Celtic diasporan heart
The Spiral of Memory and Belonging: A Celtic Path of Soul and Kinship M.A. Frank MacEowen
Magic Of The Celtic Gods And Gods And Goddesses: A Guide To Their Spiritual Power, Healing Energies, And Mystical Joy Carl McColman (Author), Kathryn Hinds (Author)
Walking the Mist: Celtic Spirituality for the 21st Century Donald McKinney (Author)
A Brief History of the Druids (The Brief History) Peter Berresford Ellis (Author)
Druid Magic: The Practice of Celtic Wisdom, Nicholas R. Mann (Author)
Druidry Emma Restall Orr
The Green Man: Spirit of Nature John Matthews
Keepers of the Earth: Native American Stories and Environmental Activities for Children. Michael J. Caduto (Author), Joseph Bruchac (Author)
The Celtic Seers’ Source Book: Vision and Magic in the Druid Tradition John Matthews (Editor)
Celtic Wisdom: Seasonal Rituals and Festivals, Vivianne Crowley
Shamanism as a Spiritual Practice for Daily Life Tom Cowan
The Encyclopedia of Celtic Wisdom Caitlin & John Matthews
Celtic Dragon Tarot D.J. Conway (author); Lisa Hunt (illustrator)
Wildwood tarot – Mark Ryan and John Matthews
Druidcraft Tarot – Philip Carr-Gomm
The Greenwood Tarot – Chesca Potter and Mark Ryan
Whoa! Two more followers and I hit 300. How did that happen? I thank all of you who come to check out this opinionated crone’s ranting and raving and her strange sense of humour. Blessing on all of you! I sit in amazement and contemplate that number.
Magikos Musings has their 12 month challenge and this month is Reflections and we’re supposed to contemplate on what we learned. http://magikosmusings.wordpress.com/2012/12/11/12-month-challenge-2013/
But first because my mind works in weird ways, the word – Reflections- brings up other thoughts.
Did you know the reflection you see in the mirror is not how you really look? It’s one of the reasons most people hate photographs of themselves. It’s not how you see yourself in the mirror. Your true face is the opposite of what you see in the mirror. The mirror flips it. What you see in the mirror is an illusion.
How many of us live our lives by what appears in the mirror? Because just like the physical mirror, other people reflect back how they see us and it is often an illusion too. They see us through their conclusions and assumptions about life. An example? No matter how old you get your parents see you as their child and once you’re are on your own , you are often not even close to what their image of you is.
So reflect on this – You are not what you see in your own mirror or anyone else’s.
Soooo, the things I’ve learned this year, some of which I’ve just learned to accept but it doesn’t make it better.
1. 1. Grief never goes away. It may change in intensity but there are times when it walks up with a hammer and bangs on your chest like it just happened. And it’s usually at a moment when you are totally open and unaware the hammer is about to come down. It can be caused by an off hand comment, a smell, a person who looks like them from behind, any number of seemingly random things and all you can do is deal.
2. 2. Having a job, even a way under-employed one really has an effect on my self esteem and my level of depression. The difference between 2011 where I was unemployed for 8 months and 2012 where I was employed for 11 months is enormous.
3. 3. I will never get used to the surprises of aging. Who said it was okay to have grandma skin? Really annoying.
Things confirmed beyond a shadow of a doubt:
1. There are a lot of wonderful people in the world with the same sick sense of humour in the world.
2. There are a lot of stupid people in the world with absolutely no common sense and none of them think that is their fault. It’s someone else’s.
Motto I’m sticking with:
Never suffer a fool gladly.
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