Archive | February 18, 2012

Did you have to bore me sooo bad in the guided meditation?

There seems to have become a standard guided meditation that goes something like this: You are in a wood. You look around you and see a path through the woods. You walk the path and find a cave. You enter the cave and find a pool. Beside the pool stands a woman. It is the Goddess. The Goddess meets you in some guise and gives you a gift. You take the path back and somehow in your infinite knowledge know exactly what this gift means. Phoooey!

More often than not you daydreamed and never got to the path. Or the Goddess was your Great Aunt Hattie who terrified you as a child and who stared at you in disbelief and didn’t give you anything and you feel let down or ready to run. Or worse you aren’t somebody who visualizes well and went nowhere.

And to make it even worse everybody else is describing the wonderful things they got and you’re sure they made it up. Guess what? They may have and it’s okay. Guided meditation may not be your thing. Or the person leading it isn’t very good at it. The timing may have been off, for instance, right after a big lunch in a warm dark room. Or you have been or done that same stupid unimaginative meditation so many times you are bored out of your flaming skull. You may have the attention span of the average five year old. They may have an odd way of speaking and you end up thinking about that instead of meditating.

Not everything done in ritual works for everyone. It is just a fact of life. It’s something most teachers don’t tell you because they want you to try everything. Learning to visualize if you must do it can take time. You may need to hold one object in your mind at a time. Or you may not be dependent on sight and sound. You may need to do a moving meditation like yoga or Tai Chi or dancing.

If you are new you want to be able to do everything. We don’t all have every talent. Let it go and maybe farther on you will get it. Or you were right in the first place and the leader is a bore and didn’t do the meditation well.

If you are leading a guided meditation use your imagination. Do something different. Put it somewhere besides a cave or by a pool. Keep it at a steady speed this is neither the 10 yard dash nor a marathon. Try to follow what you are saying yourself. This is not performance art or a theatrical presentation. Their eyes are probably closed, remember? Try to memorize it, reading it can be distracting. Have a reason to do it other than the outline for this ritual called for it. Are we gaining something in knowledge about this sabbat? Are we trying to achieve personal goals?
But however it turned out, its okay if nothing happened this time. If nothing else you relaxed for a few minutes and studied the insides of your eyelids for awhile. In this day and age that isn’t necessarily a bad thing either.

I only had one sip from the Chalice, why the hell am I drunk?

Well, the simple answer is, you aren’t drunk you just feel that way. What you are is ungrounded. A lot of beginning ritual presenters and old timers who think you ought to know better will not tell you that you have to ground your energy when you end a ritual.

The beginners left it out because they have probably forgotten to do it too and the old timers because they figure you’re a grown up and don’t need to be reminded to do it but Miss Kat knows what it’s liked to come home from ritual and still be wide awake and watching an infomercial because she forgot to ground.

When you leave a ritual or better yet before you even leave the Circle, bend over if you are able, if not sit quietly and concentrate on sending the wonderful energy you just raised by being in a Circle back to the Earth. Relax and send it back with your thanks. Loosen your muscles and give yourself a good shake like a dog shedding water if that feels right but remember to ground yourself.

Even if you think you don’t need to, do it! Symptoms of not grounding can be as light as being unable to sleep post ritual and can be as severe as being nauseated or being intensely dizzy and off balance like being carsick or having labyrinthitis. In Gaelic they call it tuaicheal ( Sometimes heard as twollin) literally moving left wise or having been hit by an axe. You can feel very sick especially if it was a very large Circle.

If you are running a Circle you also need to be careful where you point that energy. Several years ago Miss Kat and her coven refused to attend a ritual at a large gathering because they were going to hex someone the Circle organizers disagreed with and that was outside the campsite and we were in Yosemite. Our coven doesn’t believe in performing negative magic and we declined to participate in doing so and so we all did other things. There was a problem with this as our small encampment lay southwest of where they were doing the circle and that was the direction that they let the energy go in. Miss Kat happened to be asleep at the time and got it through her body that was as close as Miss Kat has ever come to having a seizure and she doesn’t ever want to go there again. It took some one else to ground her, she couldn’t do it herself. Other effects of that night were that people got lost trying to find a campsite they had been camping at for three days already. Lovers had minor spats and friends had disagreements. So if you choose to work that kind of magic, WATCH WHERE YOU POINT THAT THING!