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Why be a Wicca 101 teacher? – Back to School for Witches

This is my Back to School for Witches posting http://bookofshadowsandblessings.wordpress.com/2012/08/23/back-to-school-for-witches-too-blog-party/ – There is a lot of things you can read about how to find your first teacher but not a lot on why or how to become a teacher. I don’t think you should teach unless you get forced into it. That might be quite a weird thing to say but it is necessary. It’s the only way to make sure you are not teaching to stroke your ego.

Teaching 101 is not just teaching a single subject and you are setting yourself in a placement of power in people’s lives. This is not like teaching a Math class. Math class doesn’t generally turn people’s lives upside down and inside out. Do you remember how your life changed when you started on the path? If you were serious about it you probably went through some pretty big changes. When you offer your life to the Goddess she always takes you up on it. Are you ready to and willing to watch other people go through that and not step in? Because you can’t step in, it’s their path to walk.

Because by teaching Wicca 101 you are about to accelerate your own learning curve, do not set out to set yourself up to be a Wicca 101 teacher, you will fall. I got into it because my first HP was on the Board of the Pallas Society (as was I) and we had been hearing about some 101 classes in the area that had gone horribly wrong. So somehow I got maneuvered into it by my old HP and another friend on the Board who would be my teaching partner.

Someone else found us the teaching place in one of the student’s houses. I don’t recommend that now because what if that student backs out or you need to tell them you aren’t going to teach them? Then you are stuck.

You have to write your curriculum. You have to put together materials. You have to have the gas money to get there. We charged $10 for the 6 week class and the money went back to the Pallas Society not us. I wouldn’t have done it to make money. If churches don’t charge for Sunday School then we shouldn’t charge either except for money to rent the space or back to the sponsoring organization just like a church offering goes to the administration of the church. You have to give your time not just for classes but for planning and sometimes some student hand holding.

You have to be willing to say this is not about me. This is about setting other motivated people on their path. You are a facilitator to that. You cannot set yourself up to be a guru or a leader because you will get yourself into a huge can of worms and the Goddess will slap you down hard. What will happen if you have the right attitude is that you will have more joy than you know what to do with from making new friends and seeing them grow.

You have to be willing to step back and not interfere with student’s growth. If they have a significant other that is not good for them they may shed it. They may lose a job. They may have health problems that call attention to unhealthy patterns. You have to be willing to watch and not make it better you cannot rescue them from their path and that will hurt if you have any compassion at all.

You have to have the strength to say to some people this might not be the right path for them. No one is going to tell them what to do and that if they want or need that maybe Christianity or a religion with rules is better for them. You have to tell people Wicca is not a fashion statement or another excuse to rebel against the parental unit. You have to tell them that that this is a path of personal responsibility.

Teaching Wicca 101 will change your life and you have to be ready for it. If you aren’t willing to change then don’t do it.

Surprises while teaching Wicca 101 A pagan blog post

When I was teaching Wicca 101 I was almost always graced with students that had already done some reading and were invested in learning. A lot of my students were referred from covens that didn’t want to teach a rank beginner even the basics so their potential HPs sent them to me. This was very flattering but I did get one whopper of an idiot that way.

I think the HP wanted me to find a way to convince this student that maybe being a pagan wasn’t the best path for her. She had been to many open pagan events and had gone to this coven and the HP had sent her on to me. ( maybe sicced is a better term) It was one I could have easily done without. She was what I would politely call willfully stupid. To be quite frank, she was a donkey’s anal sphincter.

She had not done any reading and when confronted with the reading list informed me that she had not read a book since college and she wasn’t going to start now. The rest of the class just stared at her, a pagan that doesn’t read? Not possible. I should have bounced her right there.

At one point I was explaining about the human’s part in the web of life and she got incensed informing that that no human was an animal. SHE was above animals and again the class stared at her and like always she seemed to be immune to anything anyone else felt or thought. It was readily apparent that she was the center of her world and no one else’s opinion but hers mattered. By the 5th week I couldn’t believe she was still coming and had decided if she did show up for the 6th I was not going to allow her to participate in the path commitment ceremony because it was like talking to a door and about as useful. Thankfully, she finally did not show up for the last class much to everyone else’s relief. But having her in class made the other students think and participate more as if to show me they at least had brains and did care to be there.

She did have some really funny things happen to her though. She always sat next to one of my bookcases and once one of my brooms decided to fall on her for no reason anyone could see and every time I put it back in the corner it fell on her again. It happened 3 times in a row before I decided to move the broom across the room. That broom had never done that before. My familiar bit her. The only one he ever bit in all the years of teaching I did it in my apartment. And my harp fell on her after my broom was moved. If nothing else, we got entertainment value out of her.

The only other problem I ever had was with a High Priest who turned out to be really creepy. I got two really excellent students from our Feral newsletter. They showed up with their book of shadows that I didn’t get a chance to look at for the first few weeks until they started expressing a lot of surprise at what I was teaching about how a HP should treat his students and working positively and not negatively. It turned out he took hair and nail cuttings from his students and told them he would use them to hurt them if they left. My first clue that I might be in trouble was that I got a threatening email from the HP saying I was stealing his students and that he would “get me”. It wasn’t until the next class that I got a look at the book of shadows and it was full of the nastiest sets of spells I think I had ever seen. Mostly focused on how to hurt people that somehow were all out to hurt you. There were spells for controlling people. There were hardly any positive spells in the Xeroxed book. I then found out one of them was going to be my client at the AIDS Service Center where I was on call clergy for anyone pagan.. (I’m not divulging anything here of someone’s privacy since the gentleman in question has passed on to the Summerlands.) And that this poor student rented a studio behind the HP’s house. The threats escalated wildly from this HP and I upped all my wards and when he tried to attack me at one of our Hallows gatherings he was met by several of the Asatru guys who saw him start to follow my car. They informed him in no uncertain terms what would happen to him in detail if he ever touched a hair on my head. If I hadn’t been so scared at the time it would have been amusing since it was an unlighted parking lot and it was at the only open business for blocks. . One of the reasons I wasn’t real happy with him was he lived on the continuation of my street on the other side of the freeway. Quite literally, less than a mile away from me. Thankfully he never followed the student to my class. Not fun! It takes quite a lot to scare me and this guy did.

He didn’t bother me again and the students finished the class but not too long after, my client died of a rather strange drug overdose they labeled an accident but during a meditation not too long after I got the impression that he was very surprised to be dead and not quite sure how it had happened and I wondered. The woman student disappeared and I don’t think I’ve seen her since. The night he went after me was the first time I had ever seen this HP at a pagan event so thankfully he isn’t out and about that I know of in the community. I never found out how my students connected with him but he was one bad dude. That Book of Shadows made my hair stand on end.

Hands on healing

The topic of hands on healing is a touchy one. All puns intended.

Both because some people don’t believe it exists and because of the ethical aspect.

The technique is simple enough. You can perform the basic tree meditation or any other meditation that borrows energy from the earth or you can do a meditation that draws from the sky. I personally prefer earthen meditation. You will have to experiment a bit to see what works best for you.

When you have drawn the energy up through your body focus out your hands rather than out the top of your head or your feet. This is a shorter circuit and may feel peculiar at first. As if trying to do this in the first place isn’t peculiar enough?

Your hands should start to feel really warm at the hand chakra in the center of your palms. Now place your hands above whatever needs healing. Try it first on yourself. This isn’t a party trick. This is work. Direct the energy out of your hands and into the area that needs healing. For beginners this technique works best on things like sinuses and headaches.

Form a circuit back to the ground with the energy not in to yourself. Failing to make that circuit may take that problem into your body which is not a good situation. If you see auras this is a good time to check out the colour of the area that needs healing.

If you see a muddy colour work on clearing that colour or you can visualize the colour you feel it should be flowing clear and bright out and through the area. Always make sure the energy returns to the area you are drawing it from, either the earth or the sky.

Some people find the temperature change to a cooler one and that will also signal the end of the treatment.

When you feel your done GO WASH YOUR HANDS! You do not want to be carrying their problem around with you. Put your hands on the earth and if necessary place your hands in the earth. Even if all you can find is a potted plant. I did this for a few people at work who got migraines and sinus headaches and for years afterward the phone on my desk would ring and I would hear a small voice that said, “Help!” Of course I disguised it with some acupressure and massage techniques because if they really knew what I was doing they would have lost it completely.

Now, for the ethics portion of this lesson. Always ask first before you heal. Study the situation and what you know about this person even if they are driving you nuts radiating pain. Some people have a vested interest in being sick. It makes them the center of attention and they gather energy that way to make themselves feel better. No matter how loud they are, don’t do it. They will blame you ever after for their problems and you really don’t need that, do you? And for heaven sake don’t tell them you did it to shut them up that also will come back to haunt you. To them it makes it a selfish act rather than to satisfy a need to help. It is partially a selfish act but usually it’s also an act of love. People don’t generally want to heal people they dislike. If you don’t like them if you are truly being selfish you would rather they suffer. Just not in proximity to you.

One of the precepts of Wicca you don’t hear much any more is the one about keeping silent. This would be a good time to start that one again.

Seeing?? Hearing or Feeling Auras

First off, Miss Kat doesn’t quite know how to describe this particular skill that anyone can do. Auravoyance? Auricle? Auronics, Aurakinetics? How about people who see, feel, hear, touch (which is not the same as feel), smell or taste auras?

The last statement needs to be explained because everyone talks about “seeing auras” and that isn’t always true. We use what ever sense happens to be our primary “other” sense. Most people trust their eyes more than their other senses, hence the term “seeing auras”.

We all have a complement to each of our primary senses such as: extrasensory hearing, seeing, feeling, touching, smelling and tasting. Empathy is extrasensory feeling. Telekinesis is extrasensory touching. Telepathy is extrasensory hearing. Sensing aura can combine any of the above senses.

Miss Kat was born blind in one eye and partially sighted in the other and was until she was seven years old. Sight is not her primary sense. Hearing, touching and feeling are. She had almost no sense of smell until she became a Witch so she sort of wonder sometimes is she’s actually smelling something physical since she has to concentrate so hard.

To see an aura, Miss Kat either has to concentrate very hard or someone has to ask her about what color is it and then she just “knows”. On the other hand, She can immediately hear and feel people’s auras. If she knows you well enough, she can immediately sense if something is different, i.e., if you are upset, happy or nervous. It’s written on the surface like Braille.

Some people project their aura a great distance away from their physical body or keep it very close and tight. Miss Kat doesn’t know much about tastes and smells although she knows people who smell first. One was a pastor of healing at her parent’s church. He could walk into any hospital room and tell by smell (which wasn’t a “real” smell) if someone was going to die or get well. He also had a very healing touch and used to collect children who wanted or needed to be held. Miss Kat used to snuggle up with his grandchildren and feel safe. His son is also a doctor and she suspects he has the same sense because sometimes he knows what’s going on without a whole lot of information.

I also have a coven sister who tells by smell if you are okay or not. I haven’t found anyone who tastes auras but I suspect they are out there simply because of the phrase “ he left a bad taste in my mouth”.

I hear, touch or feel people depending on where they enter my space. I project quite a distance. If I’m hearing, it can be loud or soft. Sometimes it’s rather like the difference between rap and classical and I guess you could call it “ easy listening”. I particularly dislike rap so you can tell what I think of people whom I hear that way. Everyone carries “music” in their voice that you can also hear.

When I feel someone’s aura it is in textures, scratchy, itchy, rich velvet, burlap, emery boards, diamond bright or diamond hard, a warm towel, sparkly, warm, hot, cold, in constant motion or placid. I get more information than just sight would give me and I do depend heavily on that information. (Do not use “Rescue Remedy” while trying to feel auras, it makes you head blind and can drive you nuts.) If your words and actions do not match, I’ll either ask you point blank “ what’s wrong?” (Not one of my more endearing traits), or avoid you like the plague because I don’t trust you. I especially don’t trust people who project black or gray thick fog. I’ve learns that people who do that just hide too much of themselves and aren’t trustworthy.

How do you feel an aura? Rub your hands together and let them float from your sides slowly. You should feel something tangible, soft and warm. If your aura is thin, you should feel a distinct edge. It will be egg shaped with the longer point of the egg in front and fairly close in at the sides. This exercise may take some practice but just about everyone can do it.

To see an aura, do not look straight in front of you. This usually takes a lot of practice. While looking forward look at a person out of the corner of your eye. This also works for ghosts and elementals. Let your focus ease and soften to start. You should see at least a lighter colored area and with practice you can delineate the edges and see color.

You can reach out and touch someone with your aura. I have been known to tickle people’s auras and quite a few people have gotten vastly amused ticking mine since they weren’t even touching me. Stroke gently and don’t poke! It’s also kind of fun during sex to tickle or stroke someone’s aura. You usually get quite a reaction and your partner may ask what the hell you just did. Giggle, giggle and no, I don’t give free samples.

Another exercise you can try is with a partner. Face your partner with hands outstretched and palms about a 1/4 inch to a 1/2 inch apart. Stare into the other person’s eyes. Have one person start moving their hands, the other must try and follow by sensing energy flow. When done right, the lead will shift from one person to the other back and forth. To anyone watching it will look like a choreographed dance and is usually quite beautiful. You will start to use your whole body and when it works, it’s quite a magickal experience.

Please experiment. Find out what your primary sense is. Sit in a room with people and close your eyes. Rooms have auras, as do parties and gatherings which are the sum total of the people in the room. Some gatherings feel like a big hug, some hurt or are painful and some itch or annoy. Try being aware of what you feel walking into the room. Trust it!

When Miss Kat was little, She saw everyone as an animal. She lost that ability around puberty so that’s what She’s practicing now. When she was young, she had friends who were dogs, cats, squirrels, an elephant and Jeanabeth was a ladybug. This had nothing to do with personality type, it was just who they were. The animal was just there.

So see, hear, feel the World!

Warning! Warning! Danger Will Robinson!

There are some things that the Craft has been accused of but if someone asked you to do them it would not be the Craft. These are things like blood sacrifice, sex and hexing.

The Craft never practices blood sacrifice. The closest we get is a few burnt herbs. We don’t even sacrifice living plants. Although having been at rituals where people got a plant to nurture as a symbol of their commitment to a project maybe the plant would have been safer as a sacrifice. Withering on a windowsill is worse.

No one should ever ask for your blood as a commitment. Miss Kat has occasionally given blood unintentionally when trying to clear the wick on a corner candle with her athame. But never give blood intentionally unless it is the Red Cross or hospital blood drive or at your doctor’s office.

In Wicca, no animal should ever have its life taken, period. Other traditions such as Santeria or Yoruban traditions do sacrifice chickens but they also eat them afterward with reverence. They do not do it lightly. It is done in ritual by trained priest/esses.

We honor the animals we eat but unless we live on a farm we generally don’t kill them. A lot of Wiccans are vegans or vegetarians. Miss Kat was once lectured on why she should be a vegetarian at a pagan gathering but as the person doing the lecturing was wearing leather boots and a hand-painted leather jacket she didn’t think the source was very valid or very bright.

Miss Kat gives thanks for any animal that gives its life for her dinner. She has had to kill animals to protect the children she was in charge of and knows it is not something to be taken lightly. In fact the first time she had to kill an animal it scared her to death. No one knew that but her because if she had missed she might have died. The first was a rattlesnake that was under her Arts and Crafts refrigerator. She uses a sharpened shovel and it was very quick. It was eaten at dinner and she still treasures its gift of skin. It did not taste like chicken. It tasted more like boiled innertube.

If some one ever tells you that you have to be initiated with sex. It is not the Craft. There are traditions that have sexual rituals. These traditions use them between consenting adults and established couples and not done just for fun. It’s done in private not on the flaming altar. If someone says anything different is practicing manipulation and not the Craft.

There is also no sex with the Devil. Yuck! There is no Devil. He was a perverted version of Cernunnos or Pan that the medieval Church picked up. The Dominicans that thought this up had very dirty minds and were obviously celebate way too long. It would have been much better if they had become shepherds or farmers and much safer for a lot of women.

Some traditions practice ritual flogging. Miss Kat thinks that went out with the Royal Navy and the Catholic Church. She sees no purpose in tormenting the physical body as ritual. If you really want to beat yourself up go to the gym. Far too many people were abused as children or in relationships for this to have any meaning in ritual.

We do not Hex! This comes out of that pesky “Harm None” thing. We don’t do it period. If you want to banish something put it in a positive fashion. Want banish poverty? How about a ritual to cure world hunger and need? Want to hex a rapist? How about wishing the police all the clues they need to solve the case? Or that the perpetrator be lit up so all can see his true self? Want to end war. Pray and demonstrate for peace.

Hexing doesn’t do anything but put you in a bind worse than the thing you are hexing. In fact that’s exactly what it does. It binds you to the negative. Do you really want that?

Addendum: Yes, some people say it’s okay to hex and some people say the Rule of Three only works if you believe in it. But there is also the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Confucius was right. Positive energy follows positive energy and a negative mindset can mire you in a very dark place that can be hard to snap out of.

Telepathy or Shut up! You’re thinking too loud!

We’ve covered empaths and telekinetics, now it is time for telepaths. There are two kinds of Telepaths, Sending and /or Receiving. Usually people are better at one or the other.

Sending or Broadcasting:

It is a lot easier to send than to receive. In fact, anyone stressed enough can and will do it without realizing it. Some people go around broadcasting all the time. If you are one of those people, tone it down! Everyone does not need to know you are horny, hurt or angry, even if you are bored or lunch is late. If you are not sure if you broadcast, ask your friends. You could be surprised to learn that what they feel from you is not what you are saying. If they can tell the difference you are broadcasting way too loud, and you have very forgiving friends.

If you know you are broadcasting stuff like the aforementioned, remember that this borders on manipulation and the Rule of Three may kick in. Not fun.

Receiving

Receiving takes being open. The first thing to learn about receiving is: Don’t walk around indiscriminately open. There are reasons for this:

1. It’s not nice.

2. You spoil surprises.

3. You may get your feelings hurt.

There are a lot of things out there that you don’t need to know. Pick safe people you trust to be open around.

Receiving sometimes happens in your sleep. If you don’t want this to happen call the Quarters around your bed before you go to sleep. To find out if you are receiving, start checking the things you know without being told. That is usually receiving. If on the other hand, you find you are hearing voices in our head and they tell you to do things you wouldn’t normally do you may need to see a doctor.

Warning to all Receivers:

Put those antenna away unless you have permission to snoop. No matter how much fun you are having with it, you will be swatted!

Both Broadcasters and Receivers can learn to visualize filters or earmuffs.

Sometimes visualizing shields works also. The first few times visualize silence in a quiet space. After a little practice you can so it anywhere although crowds can make it difficult. The answer is practice, practice, practice.

Shields

There are many kinds of shields. One of the easiest to do for some people is visualizing armor. Some times you only need a breastplate or helmet. Sometimes you need the whole suit.

Another is to visualize a ring of white or silver light between you and person you need to shield against.

Yet another way is to build a wall brick by brick and then practice taking it up AND remembering to take it down.

If you can’t get filters visualizes well enough, carry a piece of Hematite that is a protective stone. Since it is a reflective stone it will reflect any negativity and will ground you. Obsidian, Onyx and Tiger Eye also work. Be aware however, that if they are set in silver (a receptive metal) you may cancel the blocking effect.

If you want to enhance reception, wear Moonstone, Amethyst, Jade, or Lapis set in silver. Gold will cancel the receptive effects of these stones.

When Miss Kat wants to direct energy in some way she uses a sort of amplification device that she invented which she wears wrapped around her braids. When in crowds she wears one with Hematite, Obsidian and Onyx, along with a few other stones. Because of this she don’t have to expend excess energy on shields.

Wearing a crown of receptive stones can be highly entertaining in Circle.

To gain skills in the area of sending and receiving you should practice with a friend. Choose a time and an object or subject. Take turns sending and receiving. Sometimes it’s fun to see if someone emotionally close to you picks up what you’ve been broadcasting. It also lets you focus your field a little more accurately.

NOTE: Realize that if you get in trouble all your “Receiving” friends will know it. Be prepared for the “Are you all right?” phone calls and/ or letters.

If you are in therapy make sure that your therapist is like-minded. One of the things they look for in Schizophrenia is “magical thinking or odd beliefs” which according to the DSM III R is, “superstitions,( folk beliefs), beliefs in clairvoyance, telepathy, ‘sixth sense’, others can feel my feelings, unusual perceptional experiences, e.g., recurrent illusions, sensing the presence of a force or person not actually present”.

There are nine categories of which you need only 2 to be diagnosed. Miss Kat just listed 2 symptoms above. In other words, most Witches could be locked up for Schizophrenia. They wouldn’t need to burn us this time. Be careful with your gifts and whom you display them to.

How good are you at spelling?

Miss Kat does not believe in using spell correspondence tables. We all have personal correspondences that are more accurate and powerful than any table from a book. And if you rely on a book you are being lazy. Our personal correspondences come from our life experience and making your own table is your own great magical undertaking not one that can be delegated. This is especially true if you are a synesthete and have things that are tied together neurologically.

FYI: Synesthesia is when colours have smells or music has colour or taste. They still aren’t sure what causes it but it isn’t that uncommon. For me certain numbers have colours and certain smells have colours. The key synesthesia trait is it is always the same every time you confront that smell or trigger. It doesn’t very, ever.

So if a spell table says yellow means sunlight and cheery things and you hate yellow but love orange or another colour means sunlight and cheery things, use your colour. I guarantee the spell will work better.

Or if someone says this colour or herb = Gemini and you’re a Gemini who dislikes that herb and there is an herb that to you is more Gemini like because it flowers at that time of year or has other Gemini like properties go ahead and use it. Yes, the astrological ones have a history behind them but if you hate caraway and you have some knowledge of plants there is nothing wrong with choosing a plant like Brunfelsia uniflora also known as Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow.

This kind of correspondence table is more work than using a correspondence table out of a book but your spells will probably work better because that correspondence means more to you. A personal correspondence table will also change as you age and grow because of new experiences. Nothing has to be set in stone.

Telekinetics or who blew the lightbulb?

This is a much more difficult talent to deal with than empathy. Telekinesis has some controlled and some uncontrolled aspects like empathy but it’s more likely to affect other people than empathy.

If an empath is uncontrolled they usually self-destruct. They go neurotic, not socio-pathic. A telekinetic out of control, and a part of this talent is always capable of being out of control, does physical damage to objects and things.

What can a Telekinetic Do?

1. They can affect the flow of electrical current, i.e., turning lights on and off and never hit the switch. This is a good party trick but tends to scare some people.

2. They can break physical objects, i.e., in a seven day period a couple of years ago Miss Kat inadvertently blew 36 light bulbs in her apartment, she I only has 14 lamps in use not counting her car headlights. Solution: She switched to more expensive bulbs. Sometimes this is a way to ground excess energy. When she first started in the craft she tended to come out of ritual and break the first street light she came upon. She was so famous for it enough that when it happened she’d hear friends voices yell, “ Stop It!” By then it was too late of course it was dark.

3. Move or control objects, i.e., dice. Miss Kat’s dungeon master in D&D refused to tell me the number she needed after a while. She didn’t really think that was fair, but oh well.

WARNING: Do not try this in a casino, you will give yourself the most incredible headache. Remember, everyone else is concentrating too.

What telekinetics have difficulty doing:

1. Moving water. Miss Kat doesn’t know why, it may be just too dense but as a rule it just won’t go. Exception: clouds but they are really of air and if you bust or move clouds you are messing with the weather. Mother Nature is better at trying to keep in balance than you are. Although, there are people who specialize in it. We all have strange elemental affinities sometimes.

2. People. They have their own agenda and feelings. This comes under the Wiccan Rede.

3. Miss Kat personally can’t control cards, which is good or she’d never able to read tarot again. There is a small element of it used when being read by another person, because most readers will make the querent shuffle the deck, but it’s mostly to leave a trace of energy on the cards. A lot like leaving a scent for dogs to follow.

Warning: if you can move cards, realize that sooner or later no one will play with you. Not Nice. We also can’t move the Lotto balls otherwise there would be a lot more rich witches.

4. Fire. It’s easier to move than water but definitely has a mind and a will of its own. Miss Kat personally thinks fire can read us and our fears better than we will ever read the element of fire.

Two elements easier to control:

1. Anything of earth. Solids are easier to control. You have something to push or pull against.

2. Air. It seems to not mind being pushed around. Remember, speaking and singing have telekinetic aspects that occur in the medium of air. Ever had anyone call the quarters and make your hair stand on end? or give you shivers? Ever heard of Bardic Magic ?

How do you know if you’re telekinetic?

1. Do you blow lightbulbs? More than one at a time?

2. Does your computer crash often? Especially if you are upset.

3. Do you carry a constant static charge on your fingers?

4. Do you have a green thumb? This is a semi-telekinetic talent that also involves an affinity towards plants and animals.

5. Are you accident prone? If you are out of control, you will affect the way you interact with objects.

Caveat: Miss Kat has never known anyone who could bend or move a stationary object. No spoons. The operative part of the word is kinesis. Kinesis means movement. Most telekinetics can only move or affect something already in motion. Physics still runs the universe. Remember an object at rest will remain at rest and an object at motion will remain in motion.

If you are telekinetic:

1. Learn to control your emotions and your reactions to other people’s behavior. This helps prevent accidents.

2. Learn to ground yourself – literally, if you have an unexpected affinity for electricity. Most of my shoes have rubber soles.

3. Learn to ground your psychic self too – the old tree meditation works wonders.

What do you do for someone else who has been using telekinesis involuntarily?

1. Yell “STOP”! in a very loud commanding voice. This gets to the little kid inside that is running the talent out of control.

2. Before you yell, “STOP”! make sure they aren’t doing it on purpose. You will have a very angry person on you hands otherwise.

3. Explain why you yelled, Nuff said?

Miss Kat firmly believes that most, if not all, psychic abilities, come from that part of the self called the inner child, (a horribly over used term) but correct for this instance. It’s the part most likely to get out of control and try to do things. People that don’t know about the kid inside either have no ability or they are out of control. That’s why learning to ground yourself is extremely important.

Miss Kat has always been telekinetic but she really woke it up after being struck by lightning in 1976, not the way she would have chosen to discover it. Life as the Tower card. Oh well. Have fun.

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Dealing with Empaths – Pagan Blog Post

Dealing with Empaths

Not much has been written on relations or etiquette between empaths and non-empaths and how they should treat each other so here are some basic guidelines:

What is an empath? An empath is a person who perceives the world through what they feel from other people, animals, even things and places at times. They do not read minds, although at times it may seem like it. They can, however, tell with reasonable accuracy what you are feeling, whether you are telling the truth, etc.

How do you know if you’re an empath? Have you ever felt like you were walking around with your skin peeled off? Have you ever walked into a room in a really good mood and instantaneously become depressed? (The reverse of this just means you are an extrovert.) Do you get uncomfortable in crowds as in an itch you can’t scratch? Did you develop the need to heal people not of an altruistic motive but simply so you could shut other people’s pain off? Guess what, you are blessed? – cursed? – with this wonderful psychic gift which is sometime about as useful as blowing lightbulbs is to a telekinetic.

If you are an empath:

1. Learn about boundaries and how to build barriers. It’s very important to know how much outside stimulus you can tolerate and when to make yourself scarce.

2. Learn to differentiate between you and everybody else. Believe it or not it’s not all about you.

3. Learn to meditate and ground yourself. This is the best and the first line of defense.

4. Find an understanding therapist, preferably a witch. In other words, get some control. We all need someone to talk to at some point in our lives. Even therapists see therapists.

5. Also learn to limit your input. You probably shouldn’t watch disasters as they unfold on TV. Things like September 11 maybe overwhelming and induce tears or fears months or years after the events. And once you have seen it, it really serves no purpose to keep watching it over and over.

6. Remember, be careful whom you decide to sleep with–sort of safe sex for your mind. Everyone you have sex with you make a connection with. Do you really want to carry this person around in your head the rest of your life?

What do you need to know if you aren’t an empath but have someone in your life who is?

1. Never, never touch an empath unless the empath invites you to touch them. If you are not grounded and centered in yourself, you may cause the empath physical or mental or emotional pain.

2. Be aware of personal space issues, especially if the empath has been working. An empath tends to need a greater amount of personal space than the average person. Miss Kat personally tells people when in this mode, “Don’t touch.” However, some people don’t choose to believe it and sometimes are shocked when the next thing that happens is that she gets seriously annoyed, and an annoyed Kat is not a pretty sight. She will, fold, spindle and mutilate when pushed.

3. However, the exception to the above rule is that another empath who is working can touch. Don’t ask me why ‘cause I don’t know.

4. Be aware that when an empath says she has to be alone, she really means it. They may need to separate what they are feeling internally from what they are picking up externally.

Any more questions? Believe it or not, the best information on this particular gift is found in Marion Zimmer Bradley’s Darkover novels.

One last note that may or may not be covered by the Rede, “An it harm none,” since it’s not really controllable. Being an empath has one side effect that is rather novel– piss me off and you’ll have a headache and Miss Kat won’t. This is just something to remember.

The Ooga-Boogas or Miss Kat’s Pet Peeves

The Ooga- boogas or please don’t run with scissors and some of Miss Kat’s pet peeves that you must not do.There are a lot of things in the wider word that masquerade under the mantle of the occult. There are things out there that you should not mess with. You could get badly hurt. These are things many experienced witches run from, do you really think you are good enough to handle them? You will be lucky if all you do is make a spectacle of yourself. Literally.

One of these things is a ouija board. People think when they play with a ouija board it is just a bit of fun, Wrong! What makes you think the spirit or entity you have called to play has your best interests in mind? Aren’t you vain? Using a ouija board is the equivalent of making a crank call with * 69 engaged. Miss Kat tells her students they are playing “Dialing for Demons”. She has seen more people scared out of their wits because something or someone answered them and answered them correctly. A lot of people have run screaming back to the Church because they hit something evil or just scares the crap out of them. There are some things best left unknown for a reason. And how do you know you didn’t cause events to happen because you set them in motion from believing the stupid thing. Foolish mortal.

You could also get someone who is asleep and wandering the astral plane. Did you really need to disturb their rest? They may have been working on something. Miss Kat watched 3 counselors in training at her camp unintentionally call up their counselor on her day off. She told them quite clearly to “Go to bed”. Miss Kat about laughed herself off her bed watching them drop the board. Remember all time is now.

Another ooga- booga is the old “Somebody put a hex on me” nonsense. My, aren’t we important. It takes an incredible amount of energy to ill wish someone. To truly do put a hex on someone you have to keep it up day and night non-stop but if someone tells you they put one on you and you believe it (whether they actually did it or not) they don’t have to do have to do anything further. Why? Because you are then the one investing the energy to keep the hex alive. And if you go to a psychic or faith healer to have it removed or ask about it and you pay them to have it removed, or someone tells you that someone put a hex on you, well you know the saying about a fool and his money?

If you are truly ill wished the secret is salt, nothing more, no fancy spell, no big ceremony, just salt and maybe a good house cleaning. But ask yourself this, what did you do to cause this alleged hex? Hmmm? Were you mean to someone? Did you hurt someone? Cut someone off in traffic? Try to get ahead at work in a not nice way? Tell a lie about someone? Manipulate something or someone? Then, my dears, the Rule of Three is in action and you are getting your just desserts. The universe is enacting justice. Did you really think you would get away with it? And guess what, if you are new to the Craft you may get away with it once but the farther you get down the path the less you will get away with. You are supposed to know better.

Another thing, it could be is one of those lovely life lessons. What are you supposed to learn from this? Maybe the Goddess tried to teach it to you nicely and you went about your merry way and ignored her. She has a way of tapping you on the shoulder to teach you and when you don’t pay attention She gets the Louisville slugger out and hits you up the side of the head. This is why I keep a tiny Louisville slugger on my altar. Sometimes I don’t listen very well and I get hit. It is much better and less painful to listen the first time.

Another ooga-booga is going to Madame Whatserface, psychic to the Stars. She’s in a street front shop and immediately demands money. All you are going to get out of her is an empty wallet. If you really want guidance get your own cards out and learn to read. Find a reputable, emphasis on reputable, metaphysical shop and ask who they recommend. It shouldn’t cost you more than say 25 bucks for 15 minutes to a half hour depending on what part of the country you live in. OR find yourself a good pagan therapist. Do not ask Madame Whosits psychic network. Do not randomly email someone you found on WITCHVOX. Annoying people with, please remove the hex, or even please hex my boyfriend, spam will not endear you to the pagan community.

A pet peeve of Miss Kat’s is getting unknown yahoos who email or instant message her and demand her time and energy to solve their problems. Miss Kat even had a woman in Britain email her to snail mail a hex to her boyfriend!!!! Number one it’s just wrong and number two what energy and money but her’s was supposed to make this happen?

When you ask for a reading online for free there is no energy being exchanged. Is that fair? Do you really think you get something for nothing? Laws of physics still apply and there must be energy exchanged or nature will fill the vacuum with anything handy. And do you know why witches ride brooms? It’s because Nature abhors a vacuum.

Miss Kat gets the weirdest email but the ones she hates the most are the ones that start “I had a vision ( dream, or great Whosits appeared to me) that I have been given great magickal powers and I must learn to use them for good.” Bah Humbug! You have been watching movies too long and need to come out of the dark. The magickal world does not work this way unless you are on uncontrolled substances. You can’t fly either.

This is not the same as having a god or goddess appear in your dreams. Those dreams usually are true and contain an agreement or ritual between you. These dreams often don’t feel like dreams but feel like they are real and contain sensory input from all your senses. Those should be kept secret for the most part. Those are initiation dreams. The letters Miss Kat is talking about are usually in lower case letters or they look like a ransom note. Sorry people but one great magickal power is spell check.

Miss Kat always hopes these are from some misguided, self-centered teenagers but one can’t always tell. Life is not an episode of the “Charmed” ones. We are all given the same great magickal power and it is a very simple one – LOVE. That is the only great magickal power worth messing with. It makes us and our families grow. It makes the planet turn and it stops wars and feeds the hungry. If you’ve got a bigger one than that Miss Kat doesn’t want to know about it. Your great power is probably from eating a chili cheese dog and a hot fudge sundae before bed.

Another type of email Miss Kat gets is the “I’ve decided I’m a witch. You must teach me”. No, Miss Kat mustn’t. These letters are usually but not always followed with some dire threat of what will happen if Miss Kat doesn’t. Buy books and find a teacher in you area and better yet wait until your 18 and out of your parent’s house.

Chain letters, Argghhhh!. Email or snail mail or left on your desk at work. These are the worst kind of black magic and should not be forwarded. Even the most benign “something” good will happen are black mail. Even the 10 good things will happen to you today ones. They contain a veiled or not so veiled threat of some evil thing happening if you don’t pass it on. NOTHING BAD WILL HAPPEN. These stupid things are extortion and benefit no one. Except maybe the loon who got his or her jollies starting the stupid thing. If Miss Kat could figure out away around the Rule of Three for these people, telemarketers and spam mailers she would. She believes they come from the same evil dimension because they suck your energy out the same way. How many household injuries happen as you race out of the shower, trip over the cat and stub your toe to get an expected important call and it’s an idiot saying you have been chosen to get free satellite TV?